Wednesday, December 18, 2013
Semester in review
Throughout my life I have always been afraid to speak up about controversial issues. I don't want people to think I'm an awful person for disagreeing with their views or I'm afraid that I will start some kind of confrontation. This class this semester has opened up my eyes to the fact that it's okay to have my own opinions on things. If I don't stand up for what I believe in then how am I supposed to teach my children about things that are important to me. I'm grateful for the opportunity I've had to share my thoughts on this blog and to be apart of some great discussions in class. I know that coming out of this semester I will be more open about my opinions and views and not be afraid to take a back seat on them.
Saturday, December 7, 2013
Punishment and Consequences
Is there a difference between punishment and consequences?
Before this semester I never really thought there was. But now I understand that consequence is the result of the action and a punishment is what you choose to do.
So how do we punish our children? I asked my mom about how she would punish us and she said she usually just let the natural consequences happen.
So then the question came up how will I punish my children and I think my mom was really smart when she just let the natural consequences happen. With every action there is a consequence and I think the best way for me and my family is to just see what happens.
Monday, November 25, 2013
Stay-at-home mom
Right now I'm in school getting my degree. I've put a lot of time any money into it but I plan to be a stay at home mom. I don't plan on entering the work field after my graduation. I plan to stay at home and raise my babies. Why does the world look down on this?
There are so many women out there trying to be better than men and take the CEO jobs. They feel the need to be on top of the corporate ladder and to stay at home and be a mother would be pointless and maybe even mindless. I disagree. I think that being a stay-at-home mom will probably be one of the best things I ever do in life and one of my top accomplishments. I can't think of anyone better cut out to raise and influence my babies than me.
There are so many women out there trying to be better than men and take the CEO jobs. They feel the need to be on top of the corporate ladder and to stay at home and be a mother would be pointless and maybe even mindless. I disagree. I think that being a stay-at-home mom will probably be one of the best things I ever do in life and one of my top accomplishments. I can't think of anyone better cut out to raise and influence my babies than me.
Wednesday, November 20, 2013
power
When you think of power and marriage what do you think of?
Here are a few thinks that I think of:
What can we do in our lives to avoid using unhealthy amounts of power?
Here are a few thinks that I think of:
- Respect
- Control
- Dominance
- Authority
- Pride
What can we do in our lives to avoid using unhealthy amounts of power?
Saturday, November 9, 2013
Fidelity
This week in class there were a lot of things talked about that I don't really want to awkwardly blog about. One thing that really did interest me was when we talked about fidelity. In class when we discussed this it never occurred to me the little things that to some (me) are considered fidelity.
One thing that really caught my attention was when you see a famous actor or singer and talk about how attractive they are or say something along the lines of "I want to marry him". I personally have never felt comfortable saying those types of things in front of my husband anyway but after this class I realized why. It's inappropriate. This week my husband and I watched the movie Grown Ups 2 and a comment was made in the movie between a husband and a wife that they don't care if their spouse looks. This broke my heart! I think looking is just as bad as anything else.
Another things that we talked about was facebook friends. I'm not crazy or one of those wife's that are totally crazy and don't want their husband to talk to any other girl in the entire world but having old flings or girlfriends as facebook friends it just really inappropriate to me. Especially when they talk. Even if it's innocent, that's not a friendship I'm comfortable with.
I fell so grateful that I married someone that agrees with these same thoughts and views fidelity the way I do.
One thing that really caught my attention was when you see a famous actor or singer and talk about how attractive they are or say something along the lines of "I want to marry him". I personally have never felt comfortable saying those types of things in front of my husband anyway but after this class I realized why. It's inappropriate. This week my husband and I watched the movie Grown Ups 2 and a comment was made in the movie between a husband and a wife that they don't care if their spouse looks. This broke my heart! I think looking is just as bad as anything else.
Another things that we talked about was facebook friends. I'm not crazy or one of those wife's that are totally crazy and don't want their husband to talk to any other girl in the entire world but having old flings or girlfriends as facebook friends it just really inappropriate to me. Especially when they talk. Even if it's innocent, that's not a friendship I'm comfortable with.
I fell so grateful that I married someone that agrees with these same thoughts and views fidelity the way I do.
Saturday, November 2, 2013
Same-sex marriage
This is a topic that I have always kept my mouth shut about. I know how I feel and my loved ones know how I feel but I never voiced this opinion because I was afraid of the backlash I would receive. In the town I grew up in there weren't that many people who had the same values and cultures as me so to openly disagree with same-sex marriage meant you were discriminating and was an awful person so I just learned to keep to myself.
Being married now and planning for my future family I've realized I can't keep my mouth shut any longer because if I do how am I supposed to try to protect what I believe is right and teach my children principles of the church.
I disagree with same-sex marriage. I know that I have members of my family and close friends that have chosen to live a different lifestyle than me and we will probably never agree on what we think is right but I am not hateful towards these people. Even though I don't support the choices they are making it doesn't mean I respect them any less or love them any less.
In the end people are going to make the choices they want to make whether I agree with them or not so as long as I know what is right and honor my values and cultures I'm going to be alright.
Being married now and planning for my future family I've realized I can't keep my mouth shut any longer because if I do how am I supposed to try to protect what I believe is right and teach my children principles of the church.
I disagree with same-sex marriage. I know that I have members of my family and close friends that have chosen to live a different lifestyle than me and we will probably never agree on what we think is right but I am not hateful towards these people. Even though I don't support the choices they are making it doesn't mean I respect them any less or love them any less.
In the end people are going to make the choices they want to make whether I agree with them or not so as long as I know what is right and honor my values and cultures I'm going to be alright.
Saturday, October 26, 2013
My family is like a bicycle
This week in class we were working on family systems project. For my project I compared my family to a bicycle and took a look at the relationships in my family. So here's a look at my family system.
In my family there are five members my
mom, dad, sister, brother, and myself. If I were to compare each one of my
family members to one part of a bicycle they would each play a role in the
function of a bike. My dad would be the seat of the bike. When a bike has no
seat there is no rest. There is nothing for comfort and support. My dad’s role
in our family is our foundation. He is the rock of our family and without his
support we would all be lost and we couldn’t function as efficiently as we
would if we had him. My mom would be the handle bars. The handle bars play a
key role in how a bike works. The handle bars are what steady’s the bike and
guides it in the direction you want to go. Without my mom my family would get
lost and would lose its steadiness. My mom guides our family in the right
direction and keeps us on the right path. When a bike has no handle bars you
can’t ride the bike. Without my mom our family won’t keep going, it will be
impossible to stay on the straight path. My sister would be the tires. Tires on
a bike are detrimental. Without the tires a bike goes nowhere and is just a
hunk of metal. Like the tires my sister helps our family more forward. My
sister keeps our family always moving forward. Without her our family’s growth
would be stagnant. The tires make the bike move and my sister makes our family
move. My brother is the peddles. The hardest part of riding a bike is actually
riding the bike. Turning the peddles in circles over and over. Bikes are fun
and anyone can ride one put when the peddles get hard to move more work must
begin. My brother is the peddles because he puts a lot of work into keeping our
family moving. Whenever my brother sees a rough patch a head for my family or a
steady uphill climb he braces himself and keeps peddling. He keeps our family
moving through it until the end. Lastly I would compare myself to a horn or
bell on the handle bars of the bike. To some this piece might not seems like a
need and maybe even a luxury, but I know to my five year old self a bell was a
necessity on my bike. When a little 5 year old rings the bell on their bicycle
it means more than just a noise. It means happiness and smiles. It brings joy
to that little child. I compare myself to the bell because I bring a certain
joy and happiness to my family that others don’t. I’ve always been a free
spirit and pushed my family to go on adventures and do things out of the
ordinary. Without me that element of excitement and adventure wouldn’t be there
and their life would be pretty boring.
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